After being raised in the church, my husband and I, who met at 17 and married at 20 found ourselves in our early marriage knowing exactly how to move up in the ranks of our church. Despite being youth group leaders, running Bible studies and ABFs, we were not growing, nor were we happy. Were we doing too much, when the work was already done on the cross? Probably, but I think besides being spread too thin, we were driven by spiritual “success” than the Spirit, Itself. We took a six year “sabbatical” as we searched and wrestled with church as a concept. After having our first child we were motivated to get involved again, knowing, at least, that many of the problems we had with “church” were really problems in our own hearts. We are now part of a healthy, growing church that is more like a sin recovery group than a country club. We are still, however, still in the process of shedding our own Pharisaical tendencies. During those six years we did a lot of research on the early church (< 325AD) and read lots of good books, including one by John Fischer called, “ 12 Steps for the Recovering Pharisee (like me)”. His twelve steps are still difficult for me to own completely, but they are a challenge to us all and below I share them with you. Do read the book for an explanation of each of these points. May we live out Scripture’s command:
“He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the LORD require of you but to do justice, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God?” Micah 6:8
12 Steps for the Recovering Pharisee (like me) by John Fischer
Step 1: We admit that our single most unmitigated pleasure is to judge other people
Step 2: Have come to believe that our means of obtaining greatness is to make everyone lower than ourselves in our own mind
Step 3: Realize that we detest mercy being given to those who, unlike us, haven’t worked for it and don’t deserve it
Step 4: Have decided that we don’t want to get what we deserve after all, and we don’t want anyone else to either
Step 5: Will cease all attempts to apply teaching and rebuke to anyone but ourselves
Step 6: Are ready to have God remove all these defects of attitude and character
Step 7: Embrace the belief that we are, and will always be, experts at sinning
Step 8: Are looking more closely at the lives of famous men and women of the Bible who turned out to be ordinary sinners like us
Step 9: Are seeking through prayer and meditation to make a conscious effort to consider others better than ourselves
Step 10: Embrace the state of astonishment as a permanent and glorious reality
Step 11: Choose to rid ourselves of any attitude that is not bathed in gratitude
Step 12: Having had a spiritual awakening as the result of these steps, we will try to carry this message to the others who think that Christians are better than everyone else